The research portal Super job asked Russians who are officially married or in civil relationships whether they discuss work issues at home.
86% of respondents said that they tell their significant other how their work day went, what problems they are worried about, how their bosses, subordinates and colleagues behave.
34% often raise this topic at home, 52% – sometimes. Women (45%) more often than men (29%) share work joys and sorrows on a daily basis.
When starting a conversation about working with a partner, people want:
- Get advice, hear another opinion, and find a solution,
- Speak out, complain, and release emotional stress,
- Just to talk about something, to keep up the conversation,
- Make sure that your interlocutor cares.
A similar study was conducted 14 years ago. A comparison of the results showed that in 2010, people talked about work more often at home – 92%, and 44% had such conversations daily.
Psychologists advise avoiding extremes – prohibiting discussion of career and, on the contrary, turning it into the main topic.
What are the consequences of the ban?
- A partner may become ill from excessive emotional stress, lack of an understanding listener,
- The partner may find such a listener on the side, which will lead to betrayal and the breakup of previous relationships.
What happens if you bring all your work problems home?
- The partner will get tired of listening to something that is not interesting to him, for example, something highly specialised, he will start looking for other things to do,
- The partner will continue to listen, but the relationship will become fake when a person feigns attention and sympathy for some purpose,
- Relationships can fizzle out if interlocutors bring anger and irritation home.
What to do:
- Marry someone in your profession so that both can enjoy discussing medical topics and difficult patients,
- Talk to a partner who constantly brings work problems home as if he were a child: “Are you feeling bad? Have you been offended? Oh-oh-oh!” in order to quickly end a difficult conversation.
This same psychological technique will help you discipline your girlfriends who are always burdening you with something. It is useful to remember your small victories and preparation for them, so that next time you do not fall into someone else’s manipulative traps.